Deconstructing Motherhood: From Myth to Self-realization

Abstract

This paper attempts to demystify the notions of motherhood defined by the patriarchal society. Through its readings of Helene Deutsche, Simone de Beauvoir, Nancy Chodorow, Adrienne Rich among others, it tries to dismantle the accepted role of the mother as ‘selfless nurturer’ and ‘devoted caregiver’. It explains how patriarchy has systematically established gender defining roles for women that keep them away from exploring other possibilities. Further, the paper discusses how motherhood could be a ‘liberating’ experience when seen in relation to concepts like jouissance as defined by French feminist, Helene Cixous which explores the connection between motherhood and a feminine practice of writing. Finally, the paper implores its readers to not only understand the inherent exploitation that motherhood could force on women through the obligation of reproduction as well as historically and culturally defined roles but towards redefining the role of the ‘mother’ that also includes acceptance, participation and sharing of responsibilities by the male members in the upbringing of the child.